Fight the Eve Teasers!!!

  

How many  of us are  still worried to travel alone because of  daily sexual harassment we have to face during our walk to some other place or even when we are on our own vehice,or taking some public transports??.Answer will leave you stunned. Even though we see positive changes for a Women in a male centric society,most  Basic structure of this society is showing no signs of improvement. Those comments, whistles and glares not only frightens a women but leaves no room for her to get back on routine without thinking about it.

Intimidated and frightened, Victim of eve teasing finally breaks her confidence. She preferres to stay back or move in a group as she feels safe.Are these women so weak to travel alone??Is it right to blame a girl's confidence when she refuses to come out. Though A  girl knows the  importance of being independent and brave, she cannot bear the daily harassment that she has to face to earn it.

We girls when come in a group and talk about it, we learn that every girl sitting out there is a victim of eve teasing. Girl faces it everytime she walks on a road,she is followed by some random guy even if she is on a morning walk in a garden.or she is in some public place be it multiplexes, shopping malls, bus stops etc. When asked about their actions being taken, Girls were like, 'move on with such kind of acts' and were not ready to speak up.Very few of us has a courage to raise a voice and stop it then and there, Not many of us can hit the culprit with a slap when he truely deserves it.Obviously,we are afraid of simply taking this eve-teasing issues to Acid attacks just because male ego gets hurt in getting denied or slapped by a girl.Guys, please tell me, how will a male ego gets affected by a girl raising voice against this wrong.Had your Ego been on a fleet while you were embarrassing her?If guys really have an Ego,they will never let a girl's respect get ruined.

According to UN Women, one in three women around the world face some kind of sexual assault at least once in their lifetime, and more than half of these incidents occur to girls below the age of 16. Yet, 80 percent of women and girls choose not to talk about it. Often, there is an element of fear in reporting sexual violence as there is a society-created sense of ‘shame’ involved, along with the fear of dealing with the police. In addition, poor awareness regarding legislation also acts as an inhibitor.

Most of us think of sexual harassment as only sexual assault or rape, which in actuality is only one extreme end of the spectrum of abuse. We tend to ignore the verbal and non-verbal sexual harassment that takes place almost on a daily basis and has been ‘normalised’ over time.

It is important to note that post the gang rape in Delhi, several of the legislations underwent a change to protect women from sexual violence.

It is important for women and men to understand the legislation in effect and use the existing systems to stand up for their legal rights. Knowledge of these rights and a shift in the prevalent culture of victim-blaming are integral for changing existing social conditions.

people are not even willing to respect women The traditional mindset often blames the eve teasing incidents on women.Irony lies in changing the mindset and inculcating morals and values in our education system.women, should empower themselves to fight back. story everyday and now you are wondering what to do?Many women have been found carrying pins, chilli powder,pen-knives, swiss knives and even daggers to protect themselves. Self-defense classes have mushroomed across.

its time you get up and raise your voice.Although, you can always pretend to ignore all the lewd comments but things would be much better if you can just look straight into the eyes of the offender and speak up.

Source from: www.Yourstory.com.
ElsaMarie D’Silva,CoFounder & Managing Director of Safecity that crowdmaps sexual harassment in public spaces, and is a 2015 Aspen New Voices Fellow. You can follow her on twitter @elsamariedsilva

Pursuing Your Personal Legend..

From the core of “The alchemist”: A  Fable by Paulo Coelho  about following your dream.

“It is unforgettable story about  the essential wisdom of listening to your heart and, above all, following our dreams”

Some books are to be read , loved and passed on. This is one of those books. Writer has with its  life enhancing quotes made the  story of a shepherd so convincing that you really end up understanding the language of omens, language of love. Universal Language that we all humans are versed with.

In the initial pages writer very beautifully explained the “World’s Greatest lie”.  At certain point of time in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate.  Later he went on to explain,  if you start out by promising what you don’t even have yet, you’ll lose your desire to work towards getting it. Its like creating liability even before you  have any asset to execute upon. All payouts and no incomes create no enthusiasm in working, to keep going one has to motivate oneself with some kinds of omens.

Author has rightly explained secret of happiness. He said ,”secret of happiness is in seeing all the marvel in the world and yet not forgetting about the drop of oil on the spoon”. With the ‘drop of oil on the spoon’ he meant, one should never forget the purpose for which he has come, understand his responsibility and make sure that on the way of pursuing your dream you are not left with a regret of leaving all the things which formed your life initially.

This book at every hook and corner make you aware of the languages used and being followed. There is a language in the world that everyone understand. ‘When we constantly strive for something better, we use language of enthusiasm, of things accomplished with love and purpose, and as part of a search for something believed in and desired’. Well said by the author,’ when you want something, all the universe conspires to help you to achieve it. So let your enthusiasm speak and let the world conspire . Basic idea behind is, if you wish something through your heart strive for it passionately.

Author has also mentioned “maktub”, ‘if its really a part of your destiny, it will come back to you one day’ .We come across many things in our life and wish for the moment to stay. Similarly we meet different persons in our way to our dreams. Some get near some become dear. Some we want in our life to stay forever and some to get rid of. We never know why something has happened to us or why meet some person. But believe it, everything happening in our life is for a purpose. You come across person who may not stay throughout and someone whom you never met before will share rest of your life. Believe in power of destiny. If its yours it was never away from you, but if it isn’t yours, then it never had been with you.

Writer throughout the book mentions the power of following your dream. He says its never late to choose a path which excites you. Atleast for a limited period of your life, live your life the way you dreamt. Its always a fear of failure that keeps us from attempting master work, however if you have wasted 10 precious years of life in just thinking whether to do what i love or go with the flow and just earn for living; start now. Atleast you will be happy in not wasting next 20 years.

Writer in his book, mentioned the treasure which the shepherd dreams of finding. Towards the end of book, you realise, wherever your heart is, that is where you’ll find your treasure. Naturally, heart is afraid in pursuing your dream, because you might lose everything you’ve won. But life is also generous to those who pursue their destiny. To die alive is to take risks. To pay your price. To do something that sometimes scares you, but you should do because you may like or you may not like. It takes a great strength to say NO and move ahead for something better, something you must be dreaming for, something you must be searching for. So when you dare to take a step of saying no, never regert or never be afraid. Its not only you who take the decision, its the natural force. Things may get better, things may even get worse. Choice is yours, take risk and ride your life. Or always wait for the right time.